"Finding solutions is more important than dredging up the past."

Stuart Schneiderman has a new column up over at the Right Network that explains how to give advice:

When people come to see me now, they expect me to show them a new way to analyze their real-life dilemmas, and they expect that I will offer guidance and advice.

They may not always follow the advice to the letter. But they do consider it, factor in what they find valuable, and draw up their own plans for dealing with their problems.

Telling someone that “These are your options” is a lot better than saying: “You must do as I say.” And both are far superior to: “Let’s wait until we understand why your mother didn’t love you enough.”